Most of us got best friends, friendship starting from the childhood and some of those friends stick around us for the whole life, some of them are just as long as we need them, or some as long as we call them on the phone, or as long as we visit them.
I use to think that those are my closest friends, call them every other day, then for some reason I have to move out of that town and bang... so called friends never call to check how the things works with me there, because they don't have minutes to call you, or, they consider enough what they get from me at the time when I call them. Interesting the fact that that I can count on my one hand fingers how many friends I have left from my childhood, and how many keep the friendship balanced (both parties are calling with the same frequency in a, let's say, one year period), the rest of them.... if I call, it's all good, if not... probably they say "I can see him on facebook", oooh, really? FACEBOOK, almost forgot about the almighty facebook, thanks to facebook, my "friends" don't have to spend $0.025-0.04/minute to call me long distance to the United States (that's the usual cost per minute from Europe to the United States), or to use their airtime minutes to call and check up. Of course, we can blame the time-zone difference, or we can blame each other, but after all, let's draw a line and count how many time did I call he/she, how many time did she/he call me, then let's add a third row, how many times we think about that friend.
So, I am wondering if the facebook actually did really got us closer? in a way about seeing pictures about our friends YES (or at least ones who post pictures of themselves online), but in a way of communication between each other... talking each other, getting closer ... for sure NO. It's true, I found some old classmates on FB, friends who I use to share things in my childhood.
I wrote this not to excuse myself on my relations towards my friends, I am writing this mostly to blame myself, maybe for being too worried in the past with some friends and then suddenly I drop my worries and "forgot" about them.
Some of them don't even realize that I didn't call for such a long time, some... realize that I don't call so often and probably they ask themselves why? what happened? What did I do wrong?. Well, you didn't do anything wrong... I just became one of you! :-)
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